{"id":831,"date":"2008-05-19T12:17:00","date_gmt":"2008-05-19T16:17:00","guid":{"rendered":"tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24575613.post-2360444139375980042"},"modified":"2008-05-19T12:17:00","modified_gmt":"2008-05-19T16:17:00","slug":"to-my-daughter-hopefully-not-for-another-20-years","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/?p=831","title":{"rendered":"to my daughter (hopefully not for another 20 years)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>i know that one day you are going to ask me, how do i know if \u00e2\u20ac\u0153he\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the one?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d this is a question that we have all asked, or will ask at some point in our lives. for some reason, i have been thinking about this lately. maybe because i have read the twilight books recently or i have been pondering my children growing up but, it has been on my mind. this is probably going to take me a long time to write but here it goes&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>when i was in high school and college i was a crazy romantic. i really think i was looking for something that wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t there. a mythical figure that would bring me kissing in the rain, surprise letters on my car and of course the star crossed romance that would never work out unless&#8230;.i could work my magic. but when it came to reality, i don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have any magic to wield. there have been times in my life that i kissed someone just because at the time, i new that if i didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t, i would regret it for the rest of my life. i wanted the feeling that i felt when i watched pride &amp; prejudice or sleepless in seattle but as i get older, no matter how much i want bella to be with edward, i realize that edward is not who i would choose in real life (twilight reference.)<\/p>\n<p> i have had edwards in my life but in the end, it just wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t enough! i think the older you get the more you will realize that all of that stuff is important (and fun) but it doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t make up for the lack of a testimony of the savior. it is ok to desire those things but more importantly you should be looking for someone who honors his priesthood. someone who has served a mission and most of all, someone who loves the gospel. if he loves the gospel, most likely, everything else will be there.<\/p>\n<p>when i met your father, we were friends for a long time. i had never dated someone that i was friends with first. i just didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t think that i could do something like that. it didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t seem romantic enough for me (silly as that might sound.) he was a great guy that i enjoyed spending time with but how can you be romantic with a friend. well it turns out you can and it was something i had never felt before. it was like coming home. i had never been so comfortable with anyone else. there was no pretense behind anything he did. he was my best friend and we could do anything together and i wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t to shy to be myself. he saw who i was and i saw who he was. that is not to say that there wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t any, as i like to call it, movie romance, but that wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t the most exciting part. he loved the savior, served a mission and was a faithful priesthood holder. HE LOVED THE GOSPEL.<\/p>\n<p>you are a beautiful girl who loves her heavenly father and even though you are only four right now i can see that you are going to always feel this way. i hope that this will be helpful to you when you are old enough to have this question. i love you and HOPE that you will choose someone that is worthy of all that you have to give. thank you for being my daughter baby belle.<\/p>\n<p>love mommy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>i know that one day you are going to ask me, how do i know if \u00e2\u20ac\u0153he\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s the one?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d this is a question that we have all asked, or will ask at some point in our lives. for some reason, i have been thinking about this lately. maybe because i have read the twilight books recently or i have been pondering my children growing up but, it has been on my mind. this is probably going to take me a long time to write but here it goes&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p>when i was in high school and college i was a crazy romantic. i really think i was looking for something that wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t there. a mythical figure that would bring me kissing in the rain, surprise letters on my car and of course the star crossed romance that would never work out unless&#8230;.i could work my magic. but when it came to reality, i don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have any magic to wield. there have been times in my life that i kissed someone just because at the time, i new that if i didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t, i would regret it for the rest of my life. i wanted the feeling that i felt when i watched pride &amp; prejudice or sleepless in seattle but as i get older, no matter how much i want bella to be with edward, i realize that edward is not who i would choose in real life (twilight reference.)<\/p>\n<p> i have had edwards in my life but in the end, it just wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t enough! i think the older you get the more you will realize that all of that stuff is important (and fun) but it doesn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t make up for the lack of a testimony of the savior. it is ok to desire those things but more importantly you should be looking for someone who honors his priesthood. someone who has served a mission and most of all, someone who loves the gospel. if he loves the gospel, most likely, everything else will be there.<\/p>\n<p>when i met your father, we were friends for a long time. i had never dated someone that i was friends with first. i just didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t think that i could do something like that. it didn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t seem romantic enough for me (silly as that might sound.) he was a great guy that i enjoyed spending time with but how can you be romantic with a friend. well it turns out you can and it was something i had never felt before. it was like coming home. i had never been so comfortable with anyone else. there was no pretense behind anything he did. he was my best friend and we could do anything together and i wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t to shy to be myself. he saw who i was and i saw who he was. that is not to say that there wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t any, as i like to call it, movie romance, but that wasn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t the most exciting part. he loved the savior, served a mission and was a faithful priesthood holder. HE LOVED THE GOSPEL.<\/p>\n<p>you are a beautiful girl who loves her heavenly father and even though you are only four right now i can see that you are going to always feel this way. i hope that this will be helpful to you when you are old enough to have this question. i love you and HOPE that you will choose someone that is worthy of all that you have to give. thank you for being my daughter baby belle.<\/p>\n<p>love mommy<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/831"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=831"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/831\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=831"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=831"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/raisingheller.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=831"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}